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nevermore, on the old forums wrote:Talk. Open up. Share. We want to hear. This is a thread for honesty. All bashing posts will be deleted, be aforewarned.

I found out about this through Pheidi, and thought it should be reinstated. For those of you who don't know what it is, simply post your woes and worries on here for consolation from fellow community members. Touchy-feely crap.

Personally, I'm swamped with homework. In the last week, I've had 3 reports due for highschool, since I'm taking a lot of advanced classes. The other night, I had to skip swim practice and worked non stop from 3:00 to midnight working on homework, then woke up at 5:00 and kept going. It sucked. Plus, since I'm doing double swim practices, I'm starting to get sick, which sucks even more. Plus I have a ton of private crap going on, which is too personal to discuss here.

Will Riobe and/or maxson use this? Riobe and maxson both have some heavy shit on their chest.

I don't support this thread ... sharing personal stuff on this site has been known to get out of hand. Besides, I would never trust any of you guys with my details about my life, and I wouldn't expect you to trust me. Thread seems like a bad idea.

flagmyidol wrote:I don't support this thread ... sharing personal stuff on this site has been known to get out of hand. Besides, I would never trust any of you guys with my details about my life, and I wouldn't expect you to trust me. Thread seems like a bad idea.

Then don't use the thread. It got decent mileage on the old forums. The only people who read this thread are the people who care about the community anyway (which is a lot of us, but I'm making a point), so I'm sure you can trust them to use it responsibly.

I'll be the first one to use this, I guess...

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Oh, well... Today started off normal, I expected it to be another normal day.

But at around 4:30, my parents came in the kitchen, arguing. My mom was telling my dad to "hand over the keys" because he was about to go to god knows where.

"Give me the keys."
"No."
"Give me the fucking keys."

My mom was blocking the door leading out the house and my dad kept physically trying to move her.

"Goddamnit, stop touching me and give me my fucking keys."
"No."
"I swear to god this fork will go so far up your heart. Give me my fucking keys."
"No."

And that basically went on for like, 3 minutes. I was pretty fucking scared at this point, because I always thought that I was lucky to have such loving parents that loved each other a lot. I knew things were shaky between my mom and dad but I didn't know things were this bad at all. By now, my mom had involved me in the argument because I was in the family room (which is the room next to the kitchen), and had heard everything that was going on. I was so terrified at the situation at hand I hadn't even come into full realization of what was happening right in front of my eyes.

My mom and dad were walking towards their room. They were still yelling at each other a lot. Then I heard a slam, and some more harsh words, like:

"I will rip this damn shirt off of you if you don't give me my keys."
"I am not giving you these keys."
"Give me my fucking keys."

And I heard some fighting in there and pushing and stuff. Then the door flew open and my dad's shirt was half ripped down the center. However, he still had the keys and was headed for the door. My mom, however, caught him and ripped the keys from his hand. By now, obviously, both my parents were exhausted of all patience. My dad, in anger, pushed my mom really hard, and she almost fell. My dad kept going for her; he had such an angry look. A face of which I had never seen before in my life. Same with my mom. There was physical fighting for about 30 seconds. Those were the most terrifying 30 seconds of my life, seeing my dad and my mother physically fight with each other. I tried everything in my power to stop them, yelling "Please! Please stop!" the entire time.

When it finally ended, my dad still had the keys. By now they were standing in the kitchen again, right where it really had started.

"Give. Me. The keys."

My dad, who couldn't take my suffering anymore dropped the keys on the floor. I was a total wreck watching them, tears flowing down my eyes, my face all red, eyes all watery and red, mucus flowing out my nose like a river, everything. The pain was far worse than anything I've experienced in my entire life. It was terrible.

"Look at what you did to him!"
"Me? What did I do to him?"

From there until a certain point when I was in the bathroom, I forget exactly what happened. I remember that I was in the family after the fight, just crying heavily, tears falling onto my keyboard as I stared towards the floor. My mom and dad came in, as if nothing at all happened, and comforted me, telling me how none of this was my fault, how it was just an argument, how that they just weren't getting along, etc. This made me feel like everything was going to be okay.

My uncles came over, and my grand-aunt (who lives with us btw) was talking with my mom and my uncles. The older uncle told me how it's okay, and how things would be fine, and how if I ever needed to talk that I would be able to do so with him at any time. He really helped out a lot too.

I imagine that my mom took the whole situation a helluva lot worse than I did. I mean, of course she did. Her birthday was yesterday (a day before this whole mess), and I can't even imagine what's going through her head. I'd go more in-depth about the situation but I don't feel comfortable exposing all that I know about my mother's life on an online forum.

But yeah, my mom and uncles and grand-aunt talked it over, and my dad moved out, for what seems to be good. They're broken up, but as far as a divorce goes I don't know anything about stuff like that. My dad however said that he will always be there for me when he needs me, and that he will visit daily and everything.

So yeah, that's the whole story. As far as I'm concerned it's seems like it's going to be really hard to keep myself together because of this whole situation, but I think I might be able to do it. But still, this is one life experience I'd have rather never gotten into. I can't even help but thinking what they would have done to each other if I wasn't in the room screaming for them to stop when they were fighting.

Guess that's one mystery I'll never find out about.

I am terribly sorry to hear that.

I've lived a kinda similar situation, although it wasn't as serious as your case, as it didn't involve any physical fighting. They fought each other and my mom got on the car and to her mom. They didn't speak for a whole day, and it was horrible to see how my father was. At the end, my mom came home, they discussed a little bit and finally got well with each other.


Here, take something cheesy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jyYZUhSeRYc
I hope it cheers you up or something.

That seriously blows man, how's your sister taking it?

Oh, and Riobe, I don't believe I said this before, but if you need anything, just give me a buzz man. I hope it all blows over. :/

Lately schoolwork has taken over my life. I also have moderate insomnia, which reeks havoc upon my school schedule. I do A work, yet still get B's and C's because I constantly fall asleep in class. My addiction to caffeine helps this none. The main reason why I wasn't on here for a while was because of a near overdose one night. It was the scariest night of my whole life. My heart was pounding very hard, and my father said later that he could hear the palpitations from 5 feet away. Being hooked up to machines and not knowing if you're going to have permanent damage is scary as hell. After a two week rehab course, I was prescribed a sleeping medicine, which ended up giving me anxiety. Being taken off the sleeping meds, I started the caffeine up again. Caffeine also gives me horrible migraines at large doses, but then I have to take more to relieve them, which starts me into a dangerous cycle. I can never go anywhere, because I will probably fall asleep and/or hallucinate, which are bad to happen when not at home. I only have three friends, because they were the only ones who would stick with me through all the shit that happens with my schedule.

That's about all, and Riobe, my friend went through something similar, yet much worse. I don't feel comfortable giving out deatils of his personal life, but I completely sympathize with you.

@Lachesis

Hey, just ease it up! I dunno how old are you, but you gotta stop working so hard.

Try freeing up your schedule. If you're sleeping in classes, you'll never gonna be a good student, cause man, it's much better to stay awaken and not study at home than the contrary, I believe. Much easier to catch up stuff from the teacher than from the books.


On what year are you?

Donfuy wrote:@Lachesis

Hey, just ease it up! I dunno how old are you, but you gotta stop working so hard.

Try freeing up your schedule. If you're sleeping in classes, you'll never gonna be a good student, cause man, it's much better to stay awaken and not study at home than the contrary, I believe. Much easier to catch up stuff from the teacher than from the books.


On what year are you?

14 and a Freshman. The only things I actually do are do homework and maybe hang out with my friends on the weekend. If you've ever tried it, recovering from a nocturnal schedule with insomnia, anxiety, caffeine rushes, and chronic headaches is no joke at all. Right now I'm considering therapy...

I'm always tired, I look sleepy, and I can't concentrate on negative ways of my life because of this BobbyMcFerrin song.

Anyway, my life is pretty nice at the moment, except tons of school work.

.and this place is eating up my social life, but I don't have a problem with that. ;) Except my social life, you already figured that out.

Just a little stressed right now...I have high school commencement this Friday, and not enough disposable cash for the bus ticket home. So I either borrow money from others (I want to stay away from that) or miss going home to see my friends...

Then, on top of that, I have 4 papers to write before the end of this month, plus a 1 hour presentation for a seminar course I'm barely interested in. 2 of the textbooks I need didn't come in yet, so I'm stuck with few resources and little time.

As if school issues weren't enough, my girlfriend broke up with me 10 days ago "because of the distance". I could understand that, but now I find out that she started seeing another guy almost the second I left for university.

Life goes on, I guess. :/

I'm terribly sorry about that, Riobe. ;_; I hope things go well in the future for your parents. That's rough.

College apps. :(((

Flight wrote:College apps. :(((

My deepest condolences. Where to?

Pheidippides wrote:

flagmyidol wrote:I don't support this thread ... sharing personal stuff on this site has been known to get out of hand. Besides, I would never trust any of you guys with my details about my life, and I wouldn't expect you to trust me. Thread seems like a bad idea.

Then don't use the thread. It got decent mileage on the old forums. The only people who read this thread are the people who care about the community anyway (which is a lot of us, but I'm making a point), so I'm sure you can trust them to use it responsibly.

Fair enough. For those of you who have the ... courage (?) to post details of your life on the internet, go right ahead; who am I to stop you.

Riobe, I am deeply sorry. Stay optimistic that your parents will come back together. Those of you complaining about schoolwork, I'm skeptical. Until you hit junior year, don't cry about it. (The exception being college apps, as Techno mentioned. Bleh.)


EDIT: Move to This Community?

flagmyidol wrote:

Pheidippides wrote:

flagmyidol wrote:I don't support this thread ... sharing personal stuff on this site has been known to get out of hand. Besides, I would never trust any of you guys with my details about my life, and I wouldn't expect you to trust me. Thread seems like a bad idea.

Then don't use the thread. It got decent mileage on the old forums. The only people who read this thread are the people who care about the community anyway (which is a lot of us, but I'm making a point), so I'm sure you can trust them to use it responsibly.

Fair enough. For those of you who have the ... courage (?) to post details of your life on the internet, go right ahead; who am I to stop you.

Riobe, I am deeply sorry. Stay optimistic that your parents will come back together. Those of you complaining about schoolwork, I'm skeptical. Until you hit junior year, don't cry about it. (The exception being college apps, as Techno mentioned. Bleh.)


EDIT: Move to This Community?

As good as that would be, the odds of them coming back together are very, very low. From the conversations I've heard, it's just not happening...

Even right now, I can hear her talking on the phone, and to my great-aunt, and god this is just one large fucking mess. My grandma works in the same mall as him (like literally, the two places they work are adjacent to each other), and if they cross paths all hell will break loose.

Overall though, I'm taking this better than I expected. But still.

/me headdesk

Pheidippides wrote:

Flight wrote:College apps. :(((

My deepest condolences. Where to?

The UCs, University of Illinois, and University of Maryland.

To add to all my problems above, my girlfriend of 5 months just broke up with me over TWITTER, and that shes now going out with this abusive jock who is a complete dick to everyone, including her, which doesn't make sense.

I'm really sorry, Riobe. ;_; I hope things would go better for your parents.

Lachesis wrote:To add to all my problems above, my girlfriend of 5 months just broke up with me over TWITTER, and that shes now going out with this abusive jock who is a complete dick to everyone, including her, which doesn't make sense.

I can say that I'm sorry, and I can also say that because she broke up with you over Twitter, she probably thought you are useless as a friend. :/

Man, I'd totally throw some shit down here, if not for the fact that everyone's heard it probably 20 or so times already, and the fact that you guys seem to have much worse problems than me.

I'd offer some advice or whatever, but there's not much that hasn't been said. Best of luck to you dudes, though.

Tunco123 wrote:I'm really sorry, Riobe. ;_; I hope things would go better for your parents.

Lachesis wrote:To add to all my problems above, my girlfriend of 5 months just broke up with me over TWITTER, and that shes now going out with this abusive jock who is a complete dick to everyone, including her, which doesn't make sense.

I can say that I'm sorry, and I can also say that because she broke up with you over Twitter, she probably thought you are useless as a friend. :/

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Tunco, if I ever have bad shit going on, please, please, please do not try to console me.

squibbles wrote:

Tunco123 wrote:I'm really sorry, Riobe. ;_; I hope things would go better for your parents.

Lachesis wrote:To add to all my problems above, my girlfriend of 5 months just broke up with me over TWITTER, and that shes now going out with this abusive jock who is a complete dick to everyone, including her, which doesn't make sense.

I can say that I'm sorry, and I can also say that because she broke up with you over Twitter, she probably thought you are useless as a friend. :/

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Tunco, if I ever have bad shit going on, please, please, please do not try to console me.

Fuck, I forgot to concole him. Anyway, that's what I would think if that was happened to me, I'm sorry Lachesis.


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Was she hot?

Might wrote:Man, I'd totally throw some shit down here, if not for the fact that everyone's heard it probably 20 or so times already, and the fact that you guys seem to have much worse problems than me.

I'd offer some advice or whatever, but there's not much that hasn't been said. Best of luck to you dudes, though.

I recommend you release it all. That's the purpose of this thread!

I myself will release it, when I feel like it.

Tunco123 wrote: Fuck, I forgot to concole him. Anyway, that's what I would think if that was happened to me, I'm sorry Lachesis.


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Was she hot?

Thats alright. It just seemed like the relationship was fine, then she posted the breakup on twitter, which she apparently forgot to inform me of beforehand.

She was pretty, yeah.