Stalking 101: How to not talk to girls

[SlappyMcGee]

Just as an aside on your parents thing, I think what they mean is they want you to be able to go to them about anything, but not that you should tell them everything. Honesty does not mean full disclosure.

[t̷s͢uk̕a͡t͜ư]

We all gathered in a circle and started the countdown. The clock struck 12, and everyone started cheering, hugging, and exchanging high fives. In the midst of all this, the girl that I mentioned earlier came up to me and kissed me. I want to be very clear here, since it's important in explaining why I'm currently perplexed. It did not last very long. She pulled away before I had any time to really react, and was already turned away high-fiving and shit before I managed to utter a word. So I kind of wandered off, trying to figure out whether what just happened was something that friends might do to commemorate the end of a decade or whether it was meant to convey something else.

Sounds to me like you won. Pursue that to the gates of Hell, I say.

[SlappyMcGee]

Just as an aside on your parents thing, I think what they mean is they want you to be able to go to them about anything, but not that you should tell them everything. Honesty does not mean full disclosure.

Right, I understand what they want me to do in theory, but since they rarely ask me any direct questions, I generally assume that they're suggesting that I preemptively disclose whatever information they're interested in.

No, what I'm saying is, I think they want you to tell them whatever you want. No parents wants to know everything their kid does, because they would end up disgusted and extremely embarrassed. I think they were saying that you can go to them with anything and they'll try and help. But I'm not you, so if you perceive differently, then that's probably true.

A parent can't ask direct questions about the stuff they don't know about, so that's why honesty will help your relationship with your parents. But you shouldn't, and I don't think they want you to, tell them everything.

[Destiny]

So today I woke up, and looked out my window onto a world turned white. I was really happy, because i love the snow, and everything looks so fantastic covered in such a pure, soft white. So i get my stuff ready and set out to college.
Now, my walk to college is a two mile journey, but I don't mind. In fact, I quite like that it's lengthy - it gives me time and room to think. I think we all need some time to reflect on life every now and then, and this is mine. I like it even more in the snow, and it was still snowing hard (even now, actually)
Last night i had downloaded a bunch of RHCP songs, and so i was listening to them on my ipod (off-topic note: My ipod connects to my coat, which has buttons on the left sleeve allowing me to control my ipod! How awesome is that?! :D). My musical taste is generally a lot heavier than RHCP (My favorite band is Avenged Sevenfold (R.I.P The Rev)) and so it was a nice change of pace for me. When I listen to music, my emotions are effected much more strongly than it seems other peoples' are. So for instance, listening to Avenged Sevenfold is something like a stress release. RHCP however, seem to just make me happy and care-free. I was (ironically) listening to Snow (Hey-oh), and walking in what had rapidly become an engulfing torrent of snow falling everywhere. The fog had set in, and I could barely see ten foot ahead of me.
I loved it, it was amazing, I was in my own small world, with nobody else, and this music that was just... well... I was just really, really happy. Like, so happy I was nearly crying.

Anyways, I got to college, and it turned out that it was shut due to the heavy snow. And so I got to repeat the experience all over again on the way home.

The sad thing is, that it was probably one of the happiest moments in my entire life.

Have I been missing something? Surely, there are better things in the world than a walk in the snow listening to RHCP?

I just wanted to share this with you guys. Thanks.

[Pheidippides]

Honestly, Destiny, it makes perfect sense that you were so happy. It's often the little things, ya know? And if you think that's weird, imagine having a race among one of the happiest moments of your life. I actually cried after my last race in high school. o__O;;

In my defense, it was the race of my life. ^_^

[t̷s͢uk̕a͡t͜ư]

On December 11th, I went to an orientation session at UCSC (I'm a transfer student) to get my bearings. It was several consecutive hours of pain-staking explanations of obvious things that I had thought was required reading, so I was bored out of my mind. I did, on the other hand, get an opportunity to meet some of the people I'd be taking classes with and get a bit of my bearings around campus.
Yesterday, I had a mandatory college advising session, which was 90 minutes of the same old stuff again. Learned nothing new, but met a few more people I'd be seeing around campus and in my classes. I spent three hours afterwards wandering around campus to find all the rooms my classes were in, good places for studying (such as the one I'm in now, which is bitchin'), fooderies, ideal parking locations, and the shortest routes between all of those places. It was exhausting, but I learned a hell of a lot.

Today is the first day of classes. I had to get up at 6:00 AM for the commute, which ended up fine. I ended up on campus an hour early, so I went to the parking permit office to get a temporary parking permit (I plan to get a permit for the rest of the year when my next paycheck comes in). I thought it'd take 10, 20 minutes tops, especially since it was so early.
Big mistake. I have never seen a line of ~30 people move more slowly. I've had faster experiences at the DMV, which also handled more complicated tasks than taking money and giving out slips of paper. It was totally ridiculous. I did manage to get a parking permit, but they were sold out for permits for every single lot that was remotely convenient for me, but only for Tuesdays (today) and Thursdays. I can't begin to think of what kind of unnecessarily convoluted parking system they've implemented that would allow such a circumstance, but I didn't have time to complain because standing in that line took about an hour.
So I rush to my car, park in fucking Siberia, and haul ass across the length of the entire campus to get to my first class (9:00 AM), to find that it doesn't meet until next week. I have three hours to kill before my next class, but both of the libraries are inexplicably only open at 10:00 AM, which flies directly in the face of all my experience with working with library hours. So I sat outside for the better part of an hour and counted the number of people who also made the totally reasonable assumption that the library would be open by as late an hour as 9:00 AM, but then stopped counting after I hit 20.
So now I'm in the second of three hours to kill before my next class, which is the one I'm looking forward to the least. And I also still can't determine whether or not my shiny new backpack makes me look like a tool or not. Ah, well.
Despite repeated bureaucratic stupidity, I'm still optimistic about my experience at this school, though I'm becoming less sure as to why.

[otters~1]

Destiny, I know exactly how you felt. Walking home from school + iPod is easily my favorite part of each day. Double that when it's raining. Unfortunately, it does not snow in Austin.

[Destiny]

Best of luck at UCSC, Suki. Sounds like a pain in the ass. I hope university later this year doesnt turn out to be as ridiculous. I, also, have never encountered (or heard of, until now) a library opening as late as 10PM.

[t̷s͢uk̕a͡t͜ư]

Best of luck at UCSC, Suki. Sounds like a pain in the ass. I hope university later this year doesnt turn out to be as ridiculous. I, also, have never encountered (or heard of, until now) a library opening as late as 10PM.

Thanks.
But, um... *A*M, not PM.

Now that I've had two classes, actually, I can say that I'm very encouraged by the fact that both of those professors are highly qualified, intelligent people. I had such a shitty time with incompetent professors at Boston University and the community college I attended after that that I guess I took ignorance as a given on the part of the professors. I still have a class I haven't attended yet (first session is in 2.5 hours), and I'm hoping he'll be as awesome as the other two.

[otters]

Honestly, Destiny, it makes perfect sense that you were so happy. It's often the little things, ya know? And if you think that's weird, imagine having a race among one of the happiest moments of your life. I actually cried after my last race in high school. o__O;;

In my defense, it was the race of my life. ^_^

You people and your "happy moments."

[Amadeus]

So today I woke up, and looked out my window onto a world turned white. I was really happy, because i love the snow, and everything looks so fantastic covered in such a pure, soft white. So i get my stuff ready and set out to college.
Now, my walk to college is a two mile journey, but I don't mind. In fact, I quite like that it's lengthy - it gives me time and room to think. I think we all need some time to reflect on life every now and then, and this is mine. I like it even more in the snow, and it was still snowing hard (even now, actually)
Last night i had downloaded a bunch of RHCP songs, and so i was listening to them on my ipod (off-topic note: My ipod connects to my coat, which has buttons on the left sleeve allowing me to control my ipod! How awesome is that?! :D). My musical taste is generally a lot heavier than RHCP (My favorite band is Avenged Sevenfold (R.I.P The Rev)) and so it was a nice change of pace for me. When I listen to music, my emotions are effected much more strongly than it seems other peoples' are. So for instance, listening to Avenged Sevenfold is something like a stress release. RHCP however, seem to just make me happy and care-free. I was (ironically) listening to Snow (Hey-oh), and walking in what had rapidly become an engulfing torrent of snow falling everywhere. The fog had set in, and I could barely see ten foot ahead of me.
I loved it, it was amazing, I was in my own small world, with nobody else, and this music that was just... well... I was just really, really happy. Like, so happy I was nearly crying.

Anyways, I got to college, and it turned out that it was shut due to the heavy snow. And so I got to repeat the experience all over again on the way home.

The sad thing is, that it was probably one of the happiest moments in my entire life.

Have I been missing something? Surely, there are better things in the world than a walk in the snow listening to RHCP?

I just wanted to share this with you guys. Thanks.

I've had that exact thing happen, I IM'd a friend about it:

Well, I went to a party. Socializing isn't my thing, so I wandered off. Beautiful landscape of rolling vineyards.
And I turned up some music. "Love" by John Lennon
I'd heard it before, dozens of times, but as I sat looking at the setting sun, and the vineyards, and the birds, and listening to it, really listening to it, feeling it, really feeling it, I started to cry
And then I ran. I ran 2 miles, because I felt like it. And then I walked another mile, a sweeping loop around the vineyard, listening to song after song
And I felt alive
It felt so, so right
Everything fit, and worked, and was perfect, and right
I think it was the happiest moment of my life.

It sounds crazy, so I didn't really tell anyone except him. But there's a miraculous "rightness" about that kind of stuff.

[Destiny]

I can relate to that, quite strongly. Except I didnt cry, and couldnt find anywhere as scenic as a vineyard ;_;

[Rhekatou]

I can relate to that, quite strongly. Except I didnt cry, and couldnt find anywhere as scenic as a vineyard ;_;

For me it was in a bicycle park (mountain biking, mind you) about a mile from my house.
No one else, just a little time to relax from the stress. No one yelling, no one arguing, no anger, no artificial noises, just plain bliss. Aah.

[Donfuy]

There's some kind of opposite/not-so-opposite situation too.

When you're sad and you just want to listen to more sad songs like Sigur Rós, and that makes you feel sadder, but strangely much better. People passing by you. Volume at maximum. You look at people hugging, people kissing, people smiling. And then the guilt feeling comes again. The thing that started it all.
Oh man, why the heck did I do it. Hide from what? Ashamed from what? Crap, what is she going to think now. I hadn't seen her in ages!
You dunno why the hell everything's so weird with you.

"Oh there ya go, making up stories. Just shut the fuck up and move on."

But it's so comfy here...


Yeah, these two days have been remarkably full of opposing emotions.

It's 3am. I didn't complete my work cause I dunno what the hell to write. I am going to be the only guy to not complete it.



I hope, for a better day tomorrow :D

[Amadeus]

I can relate to that, quite strongly. Except I didnt cry, and couldnt find anywhere as scenic as a vineyard ;_;

For me it was in a bicycle park (mountain biking, mind you) about a mile from my house.
No one else, just a little time to relax from the stress. No one yelling, no one arguing, no anger, no artificial noises, just plain bliss. Aah.

I don't think you get what we were talking about.

[otters~1]

I love it when you don't entirely make sense, Donfuy, because I know whatever you're saying is fucking meaningful anyway.

[Donfuy]

Yeah, at least to me it's very, very freeing and meaningful to do that. To just throw stuff here.
Just like what I'm about to do.

Dear people of Metanet!

I feel like shit! Although I should feel a lot better than the week before! I got myself some more friends and I have people to talk now on the new school.
What's happening now? I can't study. I can't concentrate. I do not know what the hell I want to do and perhaps most importantly, /how/ the hell I'm going to do it. that's why I'm going to see a fucking doctor tomorrow. If he says I have nothing, well, I really dunno what the hell to do.


Today was a day full of bad decisions, and bad humor.

[t̷s͢uk̕a͡t͜ư]

Today was a day full of bad decisions, and bad humor.

Pee fight?

[Tunco]

Hey.

I just want to share, nothing so special about this post. Today I woke up, brushed my teeth, wore my school uniform and blah, blah, blah. I arrived at school. Despite being not so popular (don't get it wrong, I'm not saying I'm not popular) I ended up walking in the corridors of school alone. Because I had only a few hours sleep, I probably looked liked I was sleep-walking but anyway, I was first to go inside the class. After a few hours, school finished and I was packing my bag, just thinking about how an ordinary day I've lived through.

There is a thing that disturbs me though. Like, I went to outside with one of my friends and it was about 1degree celcius outside and I was just freezing, but I wanted to go outside. Just to chill out, silent and peaceful. Then I wanted to go inside because I was about to freeze to death and I/ we decided to walk a bit more and go inside from one of the doors that opens to the corridor where all the science classes are. About 10 feet was left to the door and it was open (it's a one-way door so you can't open it from outside) but 2 guys came outside and closed the door when they were going away. I wasn't in the mood to become angry and I thought someone would open the door if I knock it gingerly, assuming that there is some people is inside. Well I knocked it, waited for a minute, knocked it, waited for a 30 more seconds. I saw people inside but I thought they were not hearing the door and I kicked the door keenly and someone opened it. So we decided to go to library and a woman/ a teacher I haven't saw in my life started to yell at me because I kicked the door. She said that I could've broke it, blah, blah, blah. And, oh, I have this strange thing that when someone starts to yell me for no reason -or for a little problem- I get so mad. Well, after she is gone, I murmured myself for a minute or two, then my anger was gone.

That's all.

[Donfuy]

Today was a day full of bad decisions, and bad humor.

Pee fight?

[Aphex]

Well, a few things.
A childhood (best) friend now hates me. No exagguration there either. Literally the last time I saw him was when I was walking home with some groceries and he shouted hello from a car. Then flipped me the finger.

I don't think it was a specific action that made him hate me, I joined a new school, and became close friends with a smallish group of people. This lead to me being shy with other people, and so when he tried to keep our friendship going he may have seen me as reluctant to hang out with him... I didn't really contact him much... We grew apart... I feel a real sorrow for the loss of that friendship, we really were the closest friends you could imagine in primary school... Fuck that guy was so fucking awesome

And I can't help feeling it is irrepairable...
I think my detachment made him look to drugs...

He really does hate me. No question.

Fuck. I'm sorry.

I'm all choked up now.

FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCKF FUwabif


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I'm such an idiot

[Donfuy]

Maybe I'm way too late for this (and who am I to say such things as the next one), but did you try to tell him you're sorry? Don't just stand there and say you're an idiot. Just go with him and say something. If you already did this, amazing! :D


Now, I feel like an emo-boy. Aren't parents supposed to encourage and support their children when they're down? Help them lift up? Or is it just me playing weak-one oh-im-such-a-disgraceful-guy no-one-loves-me?
I mean, my mom just came over and asked to me what the hell was I doing to my life. If I wasn't ashamed of not studying at all. Of being the worst student. She asks if I did not think about how I need this year's grades to go to College next year. And she says they (parents) are very down with this all.
I was kind of stunned by one particular phrase. *drama* "Can't you see what you are doing to this family?" "Even your brother! Do you see the bad example you give him? He's almost following your steps!"
The thing is I see that! I see how they look sadly at me!

After the abysmal results of the latest tests I received today, I'm going to try and study.

ALSO! They'll not give me the driver's license if they don't see results! And they'll take me out of school!

[Rhekatou]

At precisely 7:15 on 2/3/2010, I got this email from one of my best friends (and sorta girlfriend):

I think it's about time you hear the truth:

I've been lying to you, well also myself, and it's taken me a few months to figure that out.
I've been telling you "I love you" since I've known you. Since we met in edge.
I've been acting. Honestly you have no idea who I am. I've been pretending to be someone I'm not, and that's not fair to you.
Honesly, if you really knew what kind of person I really am, you wouldn't like me, at all.
I'm a bitch. I'm a backstabber. I'm a lier. You don't know me, and you don't want to know me. I have anger management, and I'm always SO hyper, and I'm a player.
How you saw me in edge last night, compleletly ignoring you. Hyper, a flirt. That's who I really am.
You've honestly changed me. You have taught me some things, that nobody can, and I don't think you reconized that you did,but you did. Thank you.
I'm going now to teach you something. Walk away from me. For your own good.
In a way, I'm saving you from me.
Be careful next time Stuart. People aren't always as they seem.
In class im always so depressed. God, Im not depressed at all.
I'm starting over. Getting a new start for myself. I need you to leave my life, and trust me it's not just you, it's also Colleen, Laura, everyone.
I'm letting you go now, because, I'm going to highschool here, but only because my old best friends are going here. Really, if my friends weren't going to Eastside next year, I was going to go to Skyline, so I can play volleyball with them.
I'd say I'm sorry, but really I'm not. I am partley for putting you through with my bullshit, but I'm not sorry that you taugh me something.
I suggest you don't try to be friends with me, a person like me, you don't want. Listen to your parents, sometimes, as annoying as they seem, they are right.
I'm basically telling you, I don't want to be friends with you anymore. I don't love you, I never did. I don't even like you, I never did. This is coming from my heart, not my messed up mind.
You couldn't have loved me better. There are things I should not have done, but then again, I sure had fun. I was free, wild, crazy, I was living in a fantsy, and now I realized that you dont want to love me, and i don't love you, friends aren't going to work out.

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I was speechless.

I didn't know what to say. We had been friends for the past two years, and had just met over the weekend without conflict.
I tried talking to her all day, but she ignored me. The emails and text messages I shot off didn't get a response, and I went home depressed and wondered what had happened to trigger that. If there's one thing I'm good at, it's reading people's emotions, and I knew she was frustrated, and she was going to get angry somehow. But I didn't expect this.
Yesterday, 2/2, she came up to me in first period and said "I'm sorry. Can we still be friends?". I said yes. Day went relatively smooth.
Today, 2/3. She ignores me. All day. Says she's angry. Says to "get out of my life". "You're smothering me". She won't tell me what I did. What I didn't do. She ignores me beyond the point of just not wanting to talk, to the point of avoiding me altogether all day. I got the news of why (the quotes) from one of my friends. Apparently she apporached him during yearbook while I was at a dentist appointment and he related it to me today.
We've been great friends, and I don't know what caused this.
Recently, she's been ignoring me altogether, and she broke up with another friend she's known several years.
Half of what she said above is a lie, or is meant to spite me into hating her so she won't feel guilty (cause that's how she works). \
She didn't have the ovaries to break up with me in person, or even over the phone. When she was in the same room as me, she sent this and wouldn't talk to me.
What the hell should I do?

[t̷s͢uk̕a͡t͜ư]

Blah blah blah. Sounds like the standard fare of teenage drama. Trust teenagers to invent drama where there should be none, is something my experience has taught me. Hell, I think I even wrote one of these, myself, once, and must've read at least two or three others that my friends got.
Nothing you can do but not take it too seriously. I'll give you 100:1 that she's making that up either for attention or because she was embarrassed about the real reason she's dumping you. Probably both, actually. Either way, you're not in a meaningful relationship now, and you won't be for years to come, so chalk it up as a lesson about the stupidity of humans and keep on truckin'.

[otters~1]

Agree with Tsukatu. If I were you I would hurt her feelings intentionally or drop a piano on her or something. It's not gonna be a big deal two weeks from now, and you won't remember who she is this time in 2011.

I'm glad I avoided the usual middle school drama.