Love/Hate

[andalus]

When I was younger I used to hate everything. I was angry as a teenager and my hormones were through the roof. I suppose when you find love that changes.

Because the youth of many Western (some Eastern) societies is angry in nature they hate alot of things. I used to have a friend who lived up the road from me. We were in a very small social circle, with just another person. We hung out together all the time and it was a big influence on the way I behaved at home. I was angry. Whenever my parents were out I screamed at the computer or console or whatever because I couldn't do a level, this guy was annoying, etc. This was only 4/5 years ago when I was 13 because that's when people go crazy. I didn't argue with my family much. But I loved music. It was the thing that inspired me and when I played the guitar or mastered a melody on piano I felt good. Because I was very neglected as a child and my upbringing was difficult because I'm in a very poor family, my childhood was not very good. I was forced to eat my food and if I didn't it was my breakfast this morning. I hated my Father. I don't anymore.

In the past few years, ever since I met Sophie, I've started to have a more positive outlook on life. I solved things with my Dad, telling him if he wanted something done he should do it himself, and I wasn't going to stand for his shit anymore. He stopped being so angry, quit smoking and was kinder to everyone. I grew closer and closer to Sophie and we just ended up being together. I've bought a house and a car, going to College, got great grades, and have changed alot since my difficult childhood.

I suppose both love and hate have a big influence on your life. If I hadn't hated my Father so much I might have concentrated on other things instead of being angry. If I hadn't met Sophie, everything would have been the same as it was in my teens.

Discuss/

[yungerkid]

This sounds like it should be in the Discussion forums.

I am 16 years old. I would not say I hate anything, but I am very disciplined and intolerant of failure. Many people around me mistake this for hatred of some sort. I don't think that love necessarily improves one's situation, though. Things are only "good" or "bad" if you call them by those terms, unless you're acting on your hormones. I have problems with my parents too - but they don't spring out of love or hate. Love and hate only have a large influence if you let them, really.

[t̷s͢uk̕a͡t͜ư]

I was also a pretty angry and hateful kid, but over time that ended up becoming a general condescending amusement (although I also thoroughly enjoy being pleasantly surprised). I've actually been generally happy for the last several years, excepting some trouble spots that were few and far between. I'm especially different on a personal level from the way I was in my teens. I'm generally friendly to strangers, and all my friends' parents love me and think I'm a great influence (mwahaha).
But I've never been in love, or anywhere close to it.
I guess I'm challenging the notion that falling in love is necessary for that transition out of that hormonal teenage behavior. My best guess is that people get wiser and less hormonal, and that ends up making the difference. Love could have some part in it, too. I don't know and don't feel qualified to comment.

Good for you, though.

EDIT: Also, *moved to Discussion*.

[smartalco]

Am I the only one that didn't go through an angry-rebellious-teenager phase? I went from being a quiet laid-back kid to being a taller laid-back guy.

[Donfuy]

Am I the only one that didn't go through an angry-rebellious-teenager phase? I went from being a quiet laid-back kid to being a taller laid-back guy.

No you're not. I went from being an active child, to a very quiet and shy boy to a oh-not-so-quiet alternative wannabe and somewhere-between-shy-and-not-shy guy.

edit: oh, and hairy too.

[Ampersand]

I was hateful as a youth both because it was comical and accepted, but I'm hateful as an adult because this life thing is bullshit.

[otters~1]

I was hateful as a youth both because it was comical and accepted, but I'm hateful as an adult because this life thing is bullshit.

Did you ever commit arson? Really, you should try it. You may find that it too is 'comical' and 'accepted'.

[noops]

I dunno, smartalco, I'm kinda like that too. I think. Hmm. Well, I'm still a teenager, so I can't really say much about that subject. I'm incredibly contradictory, though, so I may be laid back, yet angry at once. I dunno. I guess you could say that I'm finding myself, or something.

And I generally try not to hate or love things. If you hate something, you wish to destroy it. If you love it, you wish to have it all the time. I do love and hate some things, though.

And @Suki: Yeah, love does have a part in things. It's not a huge part, mind, but yeah, it is definitely a factor.

[LittleViking]

I never hated anything until I found love.

[Ampersand]

I never hated anything until I found love.

God damnit, I love you.

[bobaganuesh_2]

I used to hate Michael Jackson, but that was because everybody else did, because nobody really knew him, the only knew how to make fun of him. Strange how society works, eh.